tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post1705951049306282941..comments2023-09-24T14:32:57.972+05:30Comments on Random Musings ..: Paris, My Love : Faubourg Saint-Denis ~ Tom TykwerSathyuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07852818276879627691noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post-7965290323781846072011-05-20T18:59:58.118+05:302011-05-20T18:59:58.118+05:30Sathyu has as usual raised many questions, many is...Sathyu has as usual raised many questions, many issues, many depths to be fathomed, many things to be pondered on and a challenge to come face to face with the reality of self and the true contours and colours of one's relationship with others..Whether a relationship endures the emotional storms, the changes in the beloved's personality and the external circumstances and what are the underpinnings of a relationship need to be explored.there may be bargains also but nevertheless, each relationship has some traces of love and emotional bonds which make them endure as long as they do.whether we explore ourselves through our own self or through relationships with others,there is not really much difference.When we love others, love comes to us multiplied manyfold.When we take our relationships as a mirror, they will reflect our self.Till our self is fractured, the relationships will show cracks.when the self is whole, everything, every single cell of the body to the universe will vibrate in harmany.It is all a process of evolution of our soul.<br />Just recently, in the story of prince, He had talked of the courtship, the little games of love and the fragrance and joy they bring to our lives.This joy is the essence of our lives and should be carefully nurtured.This heals the soul and the complete being of a person.<br />ON need not worry about fulfilled or unfulfilled expectations-they are momentary but the fragrance of love is what pulls and keeps the attraction alive in a relationship.Equnimity is an ideal-it means two things-either one kills the emotions or becomes so full of love that they overflow to everyone like the sun which shines its radiance on everyone. When one fills the heart with love, it is no more a spiritual discipline, it is the joy of a radiant heart spreading like sunshine to evryone, like the fragrance of flower which fills the atmosphere surrounding it.and that is what JK has also said in numerous ways.The only way to be that flower is when the cup of love in one's heart is full to the brim and overflowing like that of the Gurus, the sages and the arihants .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post-77560417120649386162011-05-15T05:57:24.719+05:302011-05-15T05:57:24.719+05:30By the way of sharing this short film,
LOVE - the ...By the way of sharing this short film,<br />LOVE - the way and the WORK AROUND what you had shared is remarkable.<br /><br />Using the JK's link is absolute and appropriate. It sweeps my all dust and lust for a moment.. <br /><br />Sorry to repeat your words once again, as nothing to spell anything rather to respell it..<br /><br />"...Our relationships are as shallow as our lives. We do not know how to relate with one's own self. As a consequence of it, we just grope in the dark when it comes to relating with any Other. We live a life of conveniences and compromises. As long as it does not disturb the fundamental axis of our negotiated spaces, the show goes on. Pretty well, that too. We contrive stories to suit the nefaroius designs of our mind. And couch them in endearing terms and ennobling references. With the cunning of reason, we concoct extremely clever narratives on love and care, on responsibilities and duties, on give and take. In actuality, we only create a make-believe world where everything is faked and feigned. Behind every facade of courtship, there is a secret bargain hidden underneath. Which is tragic. But grossly real. The irreconcilable contradictions both from within and outside creates a fractured self which is drenched in inexplicable anguish and miserable loneliness, against the backdrop of the deafening silence of the universe..."<br /><br />Apart from this short film, am very much impressed on both of sathyaMOORTHY and krishnMOORTHY's LOVE in sharing...<br /><br />In JK's word-<br /><br />Like a flower that has perfume you can smell it or pass it by. That flower is for everybody and for the one who takes trouble to breathe it deeply and look at it with delight.Thiruhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494577404482341334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post-73485302804283692452011-05-12T13:47:17.271+05:302011-05-12T13:47:17.271+05:30"BEHIND EVERY FACADE OF COURTSHIP, THERE IS A..."BEHIND EVERY FACADE OF COURTSHIP, THERE IS A SECRET BARGAIN LURKING UNDERNEATH. Which is tragic. But grossly real." <br /><br />- How true are these words of yours! I've been undergoing a serious crisis in my intimate relationships. And that's why your timing of the blog on this subject matter has become coincidentally god-sent. Unless you've also undergone all those ups and downs, truths and lies, deceptions and agonies, passions and plateaus, it would be difficult to comprehend the intensity of all this.<br /><br />The hyper-link to J.Krishnamurti has given me a radically new perspective on love and relationships. J.Krishnamurti says -<br />"There is pain in it, anxiety, hate and violence. So what you are really saying is, `As long as you belong to me I love you but the moment you don't I begin to hate you. As long as I can rely on you to satisfy my demands, I love you, but the moment you cease to supply what I want I don't like you'."<br /><br />A reading of that Chapter by J.Krishnamurti has given a tight slap on my so-called understanding of love. This fundamentally questions my beliefs and ideas on relationships. How am I to get rid of the fakeness and duplicity, and genuinely love anyone? Is it possible to break away from the past and start life afresh?<br /><br />Perhaps, a spiritual quest would make me gain equanimity as Pankaj says. What if the spiritual quest itself is a fake escapism from the harsh and brutal reality of life? One has to be careful to tread a path in solitude and bliss, without falling into any of the quick-fix traps around. That is no easy task.<br /><br />The short-film by Tom Tykwer is splendidly poetic. It depicts the meteoric rise and imminent fall of a passionate relationship in all its varied hues and colours. Only the last phone-call seems to be more of a fantasy and a longing of the lover than actuality!PallaviGoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791010337700340214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post-84284826843757774262011-05-09T17:52:11.863+05:302011-05-09T17:52:11.863+05:30We all seek relationships all the time. Whether so...We all seek relationships all the time. Whether social or personal, intimate or otherwise. But almost all of them fall woefully short of our expectations. Basically the devil lies in our expectation. If we do not seek anything, whatever we get or not get would either make us happy or would not perturb us. But the happiness again is a trap. Therefore the key is to maintain equanimity with all objects and relations of the world at all times. As Tulsidas has said "Tulsi mamta RAM se, samata sab sansar". That may be highest spiritual discipline and one difficult to attain. But even small begining in this direction would be of immense benefit putting at rest the treachery of human mind.Pankajnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post-56820000781219612522011-05-05T22:37:47.062+05:302011-05-05T22:37:47.062+05:30When I first read your post, I said, “Wow, a brill...When I first read your post, I said, “Wow, a brilliant piece. Getting to read some original fiery writing after a long time!”. Being an ardent fan of yours there was no question of doubting what you had written! So I too embarked upon a journey traveling through the “lanes and bye-lanes” of memory, pondering how would life be without relationships? <br /><br />What would it be like to not have anybody intimate around? What would it be like to be on your own? May be it will save us the pain caused by “façade of courtship”!!! There wouldn’t be any “inexplicable anguish” too!!! This loneliness (without relationships) may be much better than the “miserable loneliness” that Sathya talks about.. <br /><br />Well, what would I do then if I had no one around? I just wouldn’t care to live!<br /><br />That’s when I felt, yes, you are perfectly right when you compared our lives with our relationships. Both are inseparable. However, whether it is to be shallow or profound is a choice that we have. <br /><br />The smile on a child’s face, the pain when you see tears on a friend’s face, the pounding of heart when waiting for a loved one, the peaceful sleep when one rests on the mother’s lap, the bliss when somebody intimate gives you a hug, the touch of one’s beloved…. the list goes on and on…. All these are essential for survival. But expecting them to last for eternity will definitely make you sad. These emotions and feelings are true only in those moments. But they are true!!! <br /><br />Definitely, there are going to be some intimate ones who may concoct narratives and not just hurt you, but kill you from within, but then….. that too is momentary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2634607205622614424.post-13064999290032972232011-05-05T10:14:34.950+05:302011-05-05T10:14:34.950+05:30The shorter the duration is, more emphatic the fil...The shorter the duration is, more emphatic the film becomes. The soap opera directors would do the same stuff for many a year. By the way is the actress one of 'Black Swan' fame?BALAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14748136565259358238noreply@blogger.com